It may begin with a mother’s yelling, tearing through the house walls—clear, authoritative, and woven with annoyance. A child, the object of this tirade, is jolted and incensed and yells back in protest, and the air is charged with anger. What would have been a routine exchange becomes a war of words, where nobody gains and everybody leaves scarred.
There is a stain on the air in a home that comes with yelling. It turns the atmosphere from warm to cold, from loving to being harsh. Parents who yell tend to think it will get children into line sooner, but this does not happen. The louder, the harder the hearts. The home that is supposed to be a refuge gradually becomes a war zone, ringing with annoyance rather than laughter.

Yelled commands are not just loud sounds—literally or figuratively. When a parent yells, the child is not just listening to words but feeling rejection, anger, and fear. The command to “do this” or “stop that” becomes infused with shame, and in that moment, obedience yields to opposition. Not necessarily because children are stubborn, but because they are human beings whose souls respond to tone before they take in meaning. Even dogs whine when yelled at; how much more a thinking, feeling child?

In contrast, a soft tone has a magical power. It soothes even the stoniest heart. When the commands are given softly, they cut the ears and heart. Hard work becomes easy, and obedience is transformed into co-operation. There is soft strength in quietness—a sort of power which must not bellow to be obeyed. Men will obey willingly if they are treated as brethren, not if they are beaten into obedience.

Shame is where most households find themselves trapped in this boisterous cycle, because screaming has become reflexive, nearly cultural. It’s the go-to response when patience is thinning, the clock is moving fast, and the temper is short. It’s what was inherited from parents by their parents, a legacy of anger masquerading as discipline. “This is how my parents raised me,” some will say, not realizing that such rationalization keeps the very hurt they used to loathe. The family is a phase of inherited noise, repeating the same play of disobedience and yelling.

The tragedy is that yelling always threatens to maintain control, but ends in chaos. It presents an illusion of power—temporary silence, quick obedience—but quietly seethes with resentment. Children hear more for tone than content. They might comply today, but tomorrow, they will emotionally distance themselves and construct walls of distrust that will crumble years later. The yelled-at voice, intended to command respect, actually suppresses affection.

Each household has its breaking point, and more frequently than not, it isn’t the monstrous blowouts that wreck it but the teeny, tiny blowups that diminish harmony. The shout of rage across dirty dishes, incomplete tasks, or misplaced shoes—these incidents build like rust on steel. Love wears away slowly beneath the grit of annoyance. A household where screaming dominates not only forfeits peace; it forfeits gentleness, that delicate thread that keeps family units united through everything.

Let’s face it. Yelling can’t be helped at times when requests are repeatedly ignored. But let it be a last resort, not a jolting first command. It should be the climax of gradual commands. Say it immediately, yell right away without prior admonitions, and you will get the response of a jolted mad dog, taken aback and ready to bite you with the ferocious brutality of a wild beast.

Peace at home is not obtained by numbers but by quality. The lesson is easy but difficult to practice: soft words travel farther than hot words yelled. Patience is not weakness but an action of wisdom. The day a parent realizes the power to lower the voice rather than raise it is the day peace starts coming home. And when that happens, every order, however exacting, will ring more like love than command.

In the not so distant past ,we have seen that TV Series called Fear Factor. It is a US TV series that challenges contestants to do seemingly fearsome and really dangerous stunts which normally ordinary humans cannot and will not do.

This time around, to me, Fear Factor is an Economic thing. In a country like ours where disaster pounds us every waking hour, like the daily earthquake and scores of typhoons would this not affect our economy. And every single day, where we are awakened and glued to screens by stories of corruption by our leaders , would these not be a fear factor for investors?

The Philippines stands as one of the most disaster-prone nations globally, a reality that profoundly shapes the collective psyche of its people. The recurrent typhoons, earthquakes, and floods are not merely natural phenomena but catalysts that expose systemic vulnerabilities within the country’s socio-political framework. This persistent exposure to calamities generates a palpable fear index, reflecting both environmental hazards and institutional fragility.

Diri ba makaharadlok inina Combo? Baga ini hin one two punch nga maul-ul!
It is a bit gloomy that the combination of man-made and natural calamity is affecting us as we speak.

Thus, we need to be wiser, and we need wise up. We need to formally and collectively disallow corruption and prepare for calamities; we need to do these, or we perish.