It’s funny, almost absurd—men who once couldn’t bear to be five minutes late for a high school flag ceremony now move like time is their servant. People age, yes, but somewhere along the wrinkled way, they also forget how not to waste other people’s time.

It’s not that old people become lazy or indifferent—they just somehow lose that fiery urgency they once had. I remember being young myself, and though I still count myself among the not-yet-old, I see the difference. Back then, we were racing against the clock. We woke up before alarms rang, arrived at school thirty minutes early, and cursed every second of delay like it was a personal betrayal. A missed ride felt like a moral failure. Tardiness meant shame.

But now? The older folks in my life seem to treat clocks like polite suggestions. They no longer live by the minute, but rather in some expansive version of time where 4 p.m. can easily mean “after I finish my coffee, my nap, and maybe that 45-minute chika with the neighbor.”

Of course, youth has its charms, and one of them is the illusion of scarcity. Young people believe time is precious because they think they have less of it for what they want to do now. Ironically, they’re the ones with decades ahead of them. But they value time like it’s gold dust slipping through their fingers. Meanwhile, the elderly—many of whom are living on borrowed time—seem to regard it like sand in a desert: abundant, warm, and easy to lie down on. It’s not a lack of awareness, I think. It’s the fading of the tick-tock in the soul.

This shift is not just personal—it’s cultural. Older generations, once obsessed with schedules, now prefer to linger. My mother, for instance, once made me recite my itinerary before letting me go out. Later, she’d tell me, “Ayaw pagdinali nga duro. Paghinay.” She said it with a wisdom I respect, but sometimes, I think she forgot that the whole world doesn’t run on her calm. She was not being inconsiderate, not really. She just moved to a rhythm that no longer matches the tempo of modern life, and that disconnect can be frustrating when you’re the one standing in the sun, waiting for a ride home.

Maybe it’s life experience—or the bruises we get from it—that teaches people to slow down. They’ve waited at deathbeds, grieved at funerals, and seen plans crumble in a blink. So now, they pause, they breathe, they take their time. But the problem comes when they also take other people’s time. They no longer apologize for it either, which is what stings the most. It’s as if they believe age has earned them an exemption from the respect they once demanded from us when we were late to dinner.

I often wonder if this evolution from time-conscious to time-consuming is part of a deeper human flaw: that we only value what we fear losing. The young dread being late because they fear being judged. The old no longer care about judgment because they’ve survived worse. But in losing that fear, they also lose touch with courtesy. They forget that time, though less urgent to them now, is still burning fast for others, especially the young they once were. It’s not just about clocks and calendars; it’s about respect. We all live on borrowed time, but borrowing someone else’s without consent is just bad manners.

This isn’t to say that all old people are inconsiderate. I’ve met punctual grandmothers with sharp watches and sharper tongues who’d scold you for being a second late. But in general, there’s an observable drift from timekeeping to time-taking. The polite lie of “tikada na ako” has become their version of “I’m still in bed, but I want you to wait anyway.” It’s charming until it’s not—until it starts costing you hours you can’t get back.

Maybe what we need is not a crusade to make old people hurry up, but a gentle reminder that time is communal property. When we were young, they taught us to be early out of discipline. Now that they’re older, they must be reminded to be on time out of kindness. Aging shouldn’t give us a license to delay others’ lives. If anything, it should teach us how fleeting and precious each minute is—not just for ourselves, but for everyone still waiting outside the bank.

The Traffic Redistribution and the Use of Alternative RORO routes diverting away from the Asian Highway 26 might somehow heals the rugged and wrecked roads that runs from Sta Rita to Catbalogan. This may be the needed healing for these Maharlika of ours.

Yes, it may be the case . As the San Juanico Bridge previously Marcos Bridge goes to a selective road users’ mode , one that can only allow small tonnage of motor vehicles passing through its bridge’s bosom it may be the needed respite for the AH26 otherwise known as Maharlika Highway. Let me count the ways :

Traffic Redistribution: With weight restrictions on the bridge, heavy vehicles are being rerouted, which may lead to increased wear and tear on alternative roads. This could prompt maintenance efforts on these routes. The needed repairs and less Heavy Vehicles pummeling the said road area. The Samar Area on that vicinity of Sta Rita, Calbiga up to Catbalogan will have a relatively less of the Wing Vans and !6 Wheeler Trucks passing by that causes tremendous heavy damage.

Economic Activities on some Areas: On some areas where economic activities are needed but was deprived due to the seemingly easier traditional route of the Asian Highway 26 or Maharlika Highway will see some blossoming of sorts. The Calbayog Port which receives the RORO from Ormoc , the Amndayehan Port or San Antonio, Biliran Port , Catbalogan Port and Babatngon as Alternative Route will see a sort of reawakening . Like it or not the main artery to and back from imperial Manila will have to use the barges on this port and the economic benefit will be felt, soon.

In all, the opinion of this writer may not stir the beehive, but it is perhaps logical and valid. The San Juanico problem may be Divine Intervention to repair the roads and re discover good avenue of travel from areas that were never given that positive attention before . Its about time we do !

Family businesses often face unique challenges, with interpersonal conflicts among family members frequently disrupting operations and hindering growth. When family members work together, the lines between personal relationships and professional responsibilities blur, creating fertile ground for misunderstandings and disputes. Addressing these indifferences requires a proactive and strategic approach that prioritizes open communication, clear roles, and a commitment to maintaining healthy family relationships. This article explores effective strategies for settling differences and fostering collaboration within family businesses.

1. Establishing Clear Roles and Responsibilities: Defining Boundaries and Expectations
One of the most common sources of conflict in family businesses stems from unclear roles and responsibilities. Family members may have differing expectations about their contributions and authority, leading to confusion, resentment, and conflict. To prevent this, establish clear job descriptions, outlining each family member’s specific duties, responsibilities, and reporting structure. This creates a framework for accountability and reduces ambiguity.

– Formal job descriptions: Develop formal job descriptions for each family member, specifying their roles, responsibilities, and performance expectations. These descriptions should be reviewed and updated regularly.

– Clear reporting structures: Establish a clear reporting structure to avoid confusion and overlapping responsibilities. Each family member should have a designated supervisor to whom they report.

– Performance evaluations: Implement a system of regular performance evaluations to provide feedback, monitor progress, and address performance issues promptly.
Fair Compensation: Ensure fair and equitable compensation for all family members based on their contributions and responsibilities. Transparency in compensation practices can minimize resentment and conflict.

2. Fostering Open Communication: Creating a Safe Space for Dialogue
Open and honest communication is crucial for resolving conflicts and fostering collaboration. Create a safe and respectful environment where family members feel comfortable expressing their concerns, opinions, and disagreements without fear of retribution.

– Regular family meetings: Hold regular family meetings to discuss business matters, address concerns, and resolve conflicts. These meetings should be facilitated by a neutral party, such as a family therapist or business consultant.

– Active listening: Encourage active listening among family members. Each person should have the opportunity to express their perspective without interruption.

– Constructive feedback: Provide constructive feedback in a respectful and supportive manner. Focus on behavior and performance rather than making personal attacks.
Conflict Resolution Skills: Provide training to family members on effective conflict resolution skills. This can help them learn how to manage disagreements constructively and find mutually acceptable solutions.

3. Seeking External Mediation: Neutral Guidance for Conflict Resolution
When family conflicts escalate beyond the ability of family members to resolve them independently, seeking external mediation can be beneficial. A neutral third party, such as a family therapist or business consultant, can facilitate communication, help identify underlying issues, and guide family members toward mutually acceptable solutions.
– Mediation services: Engage the services of a qualified mediator experienced in family business disputes. The mediator’s role is to facilitate communication and help the family reach a mutually agreeable solution.

– Confidentiality: Mediation proceedings are typically confidential, allowing family members to express their concerns openly without fear of public disclosure.
– Structured process: Mediation follows a structured process, ensuring that all family members have an opportunity to be heard and participate in the decision-making process.
Professional Guidance: External mediation provides professional guidance and support, helping family members navigate complex emotional and business issues.

4. Developing a Family Constitution: Establishing Governance and Decision-Making Processes

A family constitution is a formal document outlining the family’s values, goals, and governance structure for the business. It establishes clear rules and procedures for decision-making, ownership, and succession planning, reducing ambiguity and preventing future conflicts.

– Ownership structure: Clearly define the ownership structure of the business, specifying each family member’s share and voting rights.

– Decision-making processes: Establish clear procedures for making important business decisions, specifying who has the authority to make what decisions.

– Succession planning: Implementation of a comprehensive succession plan is crucial for the effective transition of leadership and ownership.

– Dispute resolution mechanisms: Outline procedures for resolving disputes that may arise, including mediation, arbitration, or other methods.

Legal Counsel: Seek legal counsel to ensure the family constitution is legally sound and protects the interests of all family members.

5. Maintaining Family Relationships: Prioritizing Harmony and Well-being
While addressing business conflicts is crucial, it’s equally important to prioritize the well-being of family relationships. Regular family gatherings, outside of business contexts, can help maintain strong bonds and create a sense of unity. Family counseling or therapy can provide additional support in navigating complex family dynamics.

– Family therapy: Family therapy can help family members improve communication, resolve conflicts, and strengthen their relationships.

– Regular family gatherings: Schedule regular family gatherings outside of business contexts to foster strong family bonds.

– Shared activities: Engage in shared activities that promote bonding and create positive memories.

Open Communication: Maintain open and honest communication even outside of business settings. This can help prevent misunderstandings and build stronger family relationships.
In conclusion, resolving indifferences within a family business requires a multifaceted approach that prioritizes open communication, clear roles and responsibilities, and a commitment to maintaining healthy family relationships. By implementing these strategies, family businesses can create a more harmonious and productive work environment, fostering collaboration and driving sustainable growth.

IF we truly love Christ by following his word and his example (cfr. Jn 14,23), then we would know how to distinguish between anger and hatred. The former is a passing emotion that is unavoidable given our human condition, while the latter is already a human act that is arrived at knowingly and intentionally.

In terms of morals, anger is still in the neutral state, while hatred is already a sin. As we can see in the life of Christ, especially when he had to deal with the self-righteous leading Jews of his time, he got angry a number of times, even going to the extent of scolding them. He even scolded Peter for restraining him to fulfill his mission. (cfr. Mt 16,23)
We should just see to it that we do not allow anger to become a sin. St. Paul warned us about this when he said: “Be angry, and do not sin.” (Eph 4,26) This means that while anger is a natural human emotion when faced with a perceived danger or dislike, it should be controlled and not allowed to lead to sinful actions or grudges or hatred.

It’s ok for us to get angry, especially because we cannot avoid having to deal with all sorts of difficult and other negative situations. But we should not allow it to become an occasion for resentment and hatred to take root in our heart.

We should just try our best to resolve whatever differences and conflicts we can have with others as best that we can and get back to the state of good relations with others even if disagreements continue to take place.

Especially in the area of politics and in others where stiff competition and rivalry dominate, we should see to it that we have good control over our emotions so that they do not deteriorate into somethings sinful already.

So, we should just be most careful with our anger. It should only be a passing thing that is resorted to as an emergency reaction. We should get over it as soon as possible, and move on to what we ought to do. It should never blind us from our real duties and responsibilities. And most importantly, it should never take away our duty to be always charitable with everyone, including the one who may have caused our anger.

Anger is one of our God-given emotions locked into our nature as persons. It has its legitimate use. But precisely because of our precarious human condition here on earth, we have to be wary of it. In fact, anger is also considered one of the capital sins, along with pride, envy, greed, lust, gluttony, sloth, that can beget many other sins.

If ever we have to be angry, let’s try our best to be angry in the spirit of Christ who showed anger over the self-righteous Pharisees and scribes, and over those who turned the temple into a market place. Christ’s anger is what is called righteous anger, one that is done always in charity and in the truth, and not just due to opinions and biases. It’s an anger that is meant to correct, purify, heal.

For those who have some serious problem in this department, who are irascible with short fuses, great effort should be made to tame their proclivity to anger. Perhaps, some medical and professional help should be resorted to. But definitely, our anger can only be best managed when we try our best to be with Christ as we should.

As one psalm described it, God’s anger “lasts only a moment, but his favor lasts a lifetime. Weeping may stay for the night, but rejoicing comes in the morning.” (30,5)

It comes funny albeit embarrassing for the senate committee investigating the purported arrest by the International Criminal Court (ICC) of the former and now detained president. The chairperson adamantly insists on her own interpretation of the law and other applicable rules on the matter of the arrest. The invited resource persons, chiefly the team leader of the police arresting force and the justice secretary, had explicated fully well the legal basis. One resource person, a retired supreme court associate justice and member of the framers of the 1987 constitution also explained that the arrest of the former and now detained president was valid and in accordance with law.

But the discussions and opinions of the legal experts who served as resource persons are not in accordance to the understanding of the committee chairperson. There seems to be a considered opinion that the committee chairperson needs affirmation, else, the expert opinions would simply be rejected. The adamant position makes the hearings a mere family drama as the senator would repeatedly question the actions of the justice secretary and the arresting team. The question would lead to the instruction of her brother, the magical president who purportedly allowed the international police to carry out the arrest of the former and now detained president.

The hearings had dragged due to the repetitious cycle in a stubborn desire to find a legal opinion that would match the understanding of the committee chairperson. The adverse opinion to the experts seems not coming as the international criminal court is backed by law and jurisprudence. The arrest was executed after the Philippine government was found to have failed in its obligation to bring the implementors of the bloody war on drugs were not investigated by the authorities. The justice department could not present any report of investigation, much more prosecution of any of the police officers who were suspected of killing hapless innocent citizens tagged as pushers or users of illegal drugs. Records reveal that only two convictions were found by the courts.

The undeniable truth is that the former and now detained president was legally arrested by the International Police (InterPol), airlifted on chartered flight to the Netherlands to face trial for crimes against humanity at the Hague, the seat of the International Criminal Court. In fact, the ICC Panel of Prosecutors and the Panel of Judges had already conducted the pre-trial. It is just annoying that the senate committee chaired by the lady senator had stubbornly insisted on her own understanding of the law, procedure and the circumstance attending the arrest of the former and now detained president.

Her statements had egged the blind followers of the former and now detained president to conduct mass actions and cry for the return to the country of their idol. International lawyers are united in their opinion that the chance of the ICC allowing the release from prison and the return to the country of their idol is next to impossible. Even the actions of the impeached vice president who like her father is a lawyer did not prosper. After thiese skirmishes and brouhaha, the recognized live-in partner of the former and now detained president issued a statement calling the efforts of the lady senator as mere pa ek ek.
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